Over time, this can actually reduce desire instead of restoring it.
4. Not Talking About It
Avoiding the conversation doesn’t protect feelings — it deepens misunderstandings.
Many people secretly assume their partner “just doesn’t fancy them anymore,” when that’s often far from the truth.
Open, honest conversations about pleasure, needs, and fears can completely change the dynamic.
The Question That Changes Everything
Dr Gurney encourages couples to stop comparing themselves to imaginary standards and instead ask one powerful question:
